As people, we can get so caught up in the long list of tasks we need to accomplish that we forget that there are people out there that may need our help. Most of us at some point in life are struggling with something that we wish we could talk to someone about. Sometimes we do not have someone that we can trust to share our thoughts with. If you have ever been in this situation, then you know how important it is to be there for people we should be checking in on when they are not themselves.
Like may have said, sharing is healing. Sharing our thoughts can greatly affect our mental health. Most of the time when someone needs help, they will not ask for it, it is up to us to be aware of the signs and to know when to reach out to someone to see if they are okay. Below are signs that you can look for in people you know so that you can know when to check in on them.
People we should be checking in on:
- People that are acting unusual or out of character
This can be with making unsound or drastic decisions. It can also be when someone is more irritable and/or snappy than they normally are on a day-to-day basis.
It is okay for people to want to spend time alone, but if they usually are not like this and recently have been distant, it is important to check-in. It is also important when they have not spoken to others that they usually speak to or hang out with.
- Those that are quiet
When people tend to not talk to others this usually means that they are overwhelmed, stressed, or going through something that they may be afraid to talk about. You can let people have the time they need to rest and regroup while also letting them know that you are there for them if they want to talk.
- People that are usually the ones there for others
People that are there for others typically lack that support from others. These people usually feel like their problems are a burden or feel like they should not ask for help. These people need someone that is there for them too.
- People going through big life changes
Changes, whether big or small can negatively impact our mental health. If someone you know just lost their job, are in a new relationship, or moved somewhere new, reach out to them to make sure that they are okay.
Ways that you can reach out to people that need support:
- Be observant
Sometimes people show signs that they need support. Sometimes it can be simply knowing when someone who passes by us needs a smile or even a compliment.
Time can be very valuable for those that need help. Take the time to talk to a friend on the phone, take them to an appointment, or volunteer.
- Reach out as an active listener
Let people know that you are there for them to talk to as just a listener but that if they want opinions or help you can take action with their approval.
- Send a text or phone call
There are several minutes in a day, even with the loads of other things you have to do, take fifteen minutes to reach out to those you feel need checked on.
- Invite a friend over for dinner
This will provide the space and time for them to talk about what is going on without the stress of them having to cook or clean.
- Let someone know that you are there even if they do not want to talk
Sometimes it is difficult for people to talk to someone about their feelings, but what matters most is that they know you are there to help or talk whenever it is the right time for them.
Spread kindness each day make sure to be reach out to those people who we should be checking in on those that may need it. It is always important to make time to check on those that need an ear to listen when things get tough. There is always someone that is lonely or going through something, we must be willing to know the signs so that we can help.
A simple gesture, smile, hello, compliment, etc., can mean the difference to someone. If you or someone you know is struggling and need help, reach out to a trained therapist, friend, family member, or the 988 suicide and crisis hotline.
