Raising a teenager is never easy. It may feel like you are constantly butting heads, but it is still important to support, love, and encourage them. Teenagers face a lot of ups and downs, especially with their emotions and relationships with others. During this time, they are learning to make decisions on their own, figuring out where they fit in, what their interests are, and much more. Below are a few ways that you can better show your teen support and also positive things to say to your child.
This time is important for building self-esteem and confidence in your child to support their mental health and well-being. Focus on being that support system for your child in order to build a better relationship with them and set them up for success.
Tips to show your teen support:
- Encourage your child to be open and honest with you
This lets them know that they can share their feelings with you. Ask them often how they are doing and what has been going on in their life. Let them know that you are there for them, even when some situations may be hard.
- Take the time to support their goals and help them build independence
If your child wants to try a new sport or wants to learn a new language, help them, and encourage them to achieve these goals. Allow your child to start making some of their own decisions, this is the best way for them to learn and grow. Remind your child that it is okay to fail and also that it is important for them to take time for things they enjoy, like hobbies, nature, exercise, etc.
- Try to be understanding and empathetic
Know that arguing and getting mad will only make them shut down. Be honest about your feelings but in a non-hostile way so that they are more willing to be honest with their feelings. Show them that what they are going through matters and help them with ways to navigate challenges.
- Take your mental & physical health seriously
Being a parent is hard and sometimes you may need help from others. Do not forget to address your own needs. When taking care of yourself, it shows your child how important mental and physical health and well-being truly is.
Positive things to say to your child:
- I am proud of you
- I am grateful and happy to be your parent
- I am here for you always
- You can achieve all things
- I love you and always will
- You and your feelings are important
- You have/will accomplish so much
- You make me a better person
- I believe in you
- Thank you for being you
- You will do great things
Teenagers are complicated and sometimes we may need to ask for help when we feel like we are being overwhelmed or do not know what to do. Know that this time in your child’s life is very important and will be filled with ups and downs.
This time in their life will start to show them what the real world is, how to make decisions, what consequences are, how to overcome struggles, find out who they are and want to be, and much more. Know that your child may struggle during this time and all they need from you is support.
The more open, honest, and supportive you are, the more they will be willing to open up about what they are going through. If you or your teen are struggling, reach out to a trained professional for help.
Family therapy and individual therapy can be a great tool to help your child through this time. There are therapists that are trained in working with adolescents and teens that can greatly help your child navigate this time of their life.
