Even with the many changes of mental health surrounding teens, little is talked about when it comes to teen boys. Anxiety and depression are becoming more common among teen boys.
Even though it is more common, boys are still less likely to talk about their problems and how they are feeling. Boys have not been encouraged as much as girls have to talk about their feelings.
Many boys grow up with the example that they should not share their feelings or show emotion because of being told it is bad. There is quite a lot of stigma around boys getting help for their mental health.
The feelings of not being able to share how they feel is what is increasing the rates of anxiety and depression. Boys typically show their feelings through worsened behaviors and anger issues.
Things that can affect mental health in teen boys:
- Exclusion
This can be from sports, social groups, teen romance, and much more.
- Struggling with gender identity
This can be simply being afraid of showing emotions, not understanding their sexuality, or being a part of the LGBTQ+ community.
- Scrutiny from family
Being made to feel like you cannot be yourself because of how your family reacts or may react.
- Bullying from social media
Social media is a huge reason for bullying and peer pressure and giving teens unrealistic expectations of who they should be.
Symptoms of anxiety & depression:
- Increased irritability
- Increased anger
- Insomnia
- Consumption of drugs/alcohol
- Social isolation
- Low grades at school
- Self-harming
Ways to lower anxiety & depression for teen boys:
- Learn to accept and talk about your feelings
This takes time and can be difficult for those who are made to feel bad about their feelings. Find someone you can trust to talk to in order to start opening up about what you are going through.
It is hard always trying to fit in and wanting to belong. It is important to have friends that will not increase your anxiety. Try finding friends with similar interests and values.
- Create a schedule
Sometimes having an unorganized schedule can increase our anxiety. Create a schedule, get plenty of sleep, get proper exercise and nutrition, and create time for self-care.
- Understand that self-care is important for everyone
Self-care can greatly decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression. Take this time for you each day to better meet your mental health needs.
If you struggle opening up to family or friends, think about talking to a therapist who can provide a safe space for you to learn how to express your emotions in a healthy way.
As a teenage male, it is important to focus on your mental health. There is a great amount of stigma around boys and mental health, but anxiety and depression so affect boys greatly. Be willing to advocate for yourself and other teen boys as well. Understand that what you are going through is normal and that no matter what other people say, it is okay to have feelings. Do you struggle with your identity or fitting in with those around you?
Are these things causing you to have anxiety or depression? Start talking about your feelings, even if it is in a journal at first. Talk to someone that you can trust about your emotions that can be there for support. If you are having a hard time finding someone to talk to, mention to your parents that you would like to speak to a therapist. If this is difficult, reach out to your school therapist for help. You are not alone, and it is okay and very important to seek help with overwhelming anxiety or depression symptoms.
