Find The Passion
That Has Been Missing
In Your Relationship
How Do We Know We Need Couples Counseling?
– Are you and your partner struggling with communication?
– Do you feel like you keep arguing repeatedly about the same thing without any resolution? Feel like a “broken-record”?
– Have you become emotionally distant leading to physically distant, and now just feel completely disconnected?
– Has there been concerns of infidelity in your relationship?
– Have you experience a decrease in physical/emotional intimacy over time?
– Has it been a long time since you have been on a date?
– Do you feel alone, even though you are married or in a relationship?
– Do your conversations revolve around money, children, or relatives?
– Have you considered separation or divorce?
– Has your relationship become less satisfying since you had children?
– Have you, or your partner been unhappy for awhile, want to stay together, but just don’t where to go from here?
our Gottman Trained Couples Therapist
MS, LPC, CIMHP, CIMNTT, CCATP, CTMH
Level 3 Gottman Method Trained
What Do We Cover In Couples Counseling?
Build Love Maps
Develop an ongoing awareness of our partners’ worlds as they move through time: how they think and feel, what day-to-day life is like for them, and their values, hopes, aspirations, and stresses.
Problem Solving, Manage Conflict, and Overcome Gridlock
The Gottman Method helps couples manage, not resolve, conflict. Conflict is viewed as inherent in relationship and doesn’t go away. Happy couples report the majority of their conflicts, are perpetual in nature, meaning they are present throughout the course of time and are dealt with only as needed. These recurrent themes become part of the couple’s shared landscape and are kept in perspective, and not linger.
Turn Towards One Another
Conversational patterns of interest and respect, even about mundane topics are crucial to happiness. Couples who turn toward successfully maintain a 20:1 ratio of expressing interest or acknowledgement vs. ignoring conversational gambits. This is referred to as the “Emotional Bank Account.” Couples who are highly successful keep a 5:1 ratio in conflict discussions, even Turning Towards while arguing.
Create Shared Meaning
Connection in relationship occurs as each person experiences the multitude of ways in which their partner enriches their life with a shared history and helps them find meaning and make sense of struggles.
What Separates You From Other Couples Therapist?
ADVANCED TRAINING IN COUPLES COUNSELING
Successfully Completed Level 3 Training In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, which integrates a more detailed assessment of the couples relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on each individual couples’ needs.
GOTTMAN RELATIONSHIP CHECKUP
Included in the cost of each Couples Evaluation. Covers over 480 questions detailing each aspects of a couples relationship to help identify the couples strengths and challenges with proven scientific methods.
90 MINUTE SESSIONS
Therapy should not feel rushed. Each partner gets the opportunity to express how they feel without the pressure of time along with not feeling that one partner may be hijacking an entire session. From a clinicians viewpoint, this allows the clinician a more in-depth analysis through observation, which helps in truly understanding the dynamics and patterns as they unfold. Leading to identification of unhealthy and problematic communication, which may be the root of the problem. 90-minute sessions allows the couple and clinician to get to the root of the issues, and then begin to breakdown the barriers that have lead to disconnection. Overall, this is cost-effective in the long-run and there may be little to no reason to continue seeking couples therapy in the future except for maintenance sessions. With traditional 50-minute sessions, this may take several sessions to observe, and can take up to six to nine months to see effective changes.
Learn From The Very Best
At A Beautiful Soul Holistic Counseling, our clinicians are expertly trained in Advanced Mental Health Integrative Medicine approaches that help to address the whole person, which is essential in identifying the underlying issues that may be preventing optimal health and wellness. Our main focus is building rapport before counseling starts, as we feel this is the most important factor in building a trusting, therapeutic relationship. We strive to deliver specialized and individualized care to each client.